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Facebook Rules…with Rules

September 13, 2010 in Rants, Technology with Comments Off

An upadte of an older post…because its NEEDED.

Facebook is a great tool for networking…but I also see a great danger for Facebook users, especially married ones. Facebook makes it easy to connect with old flames, classmates or even someone you always wondered about.

A UK site recently reported that the word “Facebook” alone appeared in 20% of its divorce cases last year. That ought to be an indicator that its necessary to set some social networking guidelines to protect our marriages.

Here are some guidelines that married couples ought to follow when using facebook:

1. Never hide anything from your spouse on Facebook…or online at all for that matter. Share your Facebook, email, and other online passwords with your spouse. This builds trust and communicates to your spouse that they are welcome to see what you are doing anytime.

2. Befriending an old boyfriend or girlfriend should NEVER be done. Don’t even go looking for people you dated in the past.

3. Never “connect” with anyone of the opposite sex. This means don’t chat, surf their photo galleries, or leave comments.

4. Remove anyone who crosses normal boundaries. Use your head…if a comment makes you uncomfortable or sets off that little voice in your head, drop them like its hot.

5. Facebook has a cool feature where you can put that you are married and even who you are married to. Announce it to the world with great PRIDE.

6. Don’t spend more time on Facebook than you do with your spouse. Communicate with your spouse and ask them, “Am I spending too much time online?” You want to make sure your spouse is your number 1 relationship, not your buddies on Facebook.

6. Use a picture of you and your spouse as your profile picture or post a few in your photos.

7. Never use Facebook or Twitter to complain about your spouse. Praise publicly all the time!!!

8. Don’t leave comments on people’s pages that may come across as suggestive. Use your head and think before you type.

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Sex: Question One

January 27, 2010 in GOD, Life Change, Pop-Culture, Revolution Church with 1 Comment

This week at Revolution, we’ll be talking about the topic of sex. I’ve been asked two specific questions a few times related to this Sunday. Today I’ll tackle question one and tomorrow, question two…here we go…

Question 1: Why would a church talk about sex?

Why wouldn’t a church talk about sex? Sex is on everyone’s mind. Its literally everywhere. My blogging friend FlowerDust backs this up. I’ve seen ads on TV where sex is used to sale the most random things! When we have TV ads using sex to sell something like a vacuum cleaner, I’m pretty sure we’ve become a sex-saturated culture.

Traditionally, the church hasn’t had the guts to address this topic. Which scares me because the church knows (or should know) the truth! Confusion and false teaching run rampant in our world when it comes to sex. Why wouldn’t we share the truth in a loving way?

We forget that sex was God’s idea. He created it. He wants us to enjoy it, in the context of a marriage relationship. One husband, one wife…oh, and frequently.

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Did you know that there is an entire book of the Bible dedicated to the subject of sex? Its called Song of Solomon. Go read Song of Solomon 7:1-8 and you’ll see what I mean. Little hebrew boys weren’t allowed to read this part of the Bible back in the day because it was so sensuous.

God wants husbands and wives to have a healthy sexual relationship. It’s a point of tension for so many marriages. Come ready this Sunday to learn what God has to say about this topic that affects all of us!

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5 Reasons Why We are Talking About Sex and Marriage

January 18, 2010 in Family, Life Change, Revolution Church with Comments Off

Why in the world are we launching Revolution Church with a message series about relationships, marriage and sex? Because…

  1. Marriages are falling apart all around us. About 50% of marriages are ending in divorce. Its a fight and I believe that marriage is worth fighting for!
  2. Marriage and sex were God’s ideas. Jesus talked about these issues and so should the church. We need to know what He says about them.
  3. Marriage is not our opportunity to be served but rather to serve!
  4. Revolution Church is all about helping people passionately pursue Jesus. And, if two people are passionately pursuing Jesus they will not pursue divorce.
  5. I want the married couples that Revolution gets to speak to to have regular and awesome sex lives!  If the sex is awesome inside the marriage then people are less likely to look for it outside of the marriage!

I believe that God is going to do some incredible things over the next four weeks and I am praying that there is much healing in marriages that are barely hanging on by a thread!

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Decade Review Part Two: 2005 – 2009

December 28, 2009 in Family, GOD, Leadership, Life Change, Revolution Church, Uncategorized with Comments Off

Here is part two. Part one is here.

2005 – In 2005 I learned that youth ministry was NOT what God had called me to despite all the people telling me that to be a pastor you had to do youth ministry first. Why did I ever listen to that bologna?

Early in 2005 we moved to be on staff at The Connection Church in Kyle, TX. At the time TCC was a brand new church plant just months into starting. Cole Phillips hired me on as basically the pastor of everything I could possibly do. I had to raise my own salary to go on staff and learned a lot about fundraising, leadership and vision casting through that experience. Again, I had no idea, but God was prepping me to launch Revolution Church.

2006 - Up until this year, everything I did was about being a leader and leadership. I had basically been repeatedly “baptized by fire” into leadership opportunities but never had truly learned to follow. Through 2006, God moved in crazy ways by teaching me what it meant to be a follower. It seemed like every time I prayed God answered “follow your pastor Zak” (which was Cole Phillips at the time.) I can’t remember ever growing so much in my relationship with Christ during any other time in my life.

2007 – My son, Couper Jay White was born on March 31st, 2007. He was born six weeks early and we spent his first week in the hospital. Couper’s birth made the idea that God gave His ONLY Son COME TO LIFE for me. God taught me about the urgency of the Gospel message and showed me that I MUST depend on Him. Again, prep for Revolution Church.

2008 – Talk about a LONG year. God started jacking with me about my life mission at the start of 2008. I reached one of my life-goals by running my first full marathon which gave me some confidence that maybe I actually could do this crazy thing that I felt like God was calling me to do. I also felt like God was moving me out of that season that began in 2006 where I was learning to follow, back into a full on leadership role.

2009 – Over the first few months of 2009, I prayed 100 hours about planting a church after being challenged to do so by Bil Cornelius. I’ve never experienced anything like that in my life. To keep a long story short, Revolution Church was birthed!

To conclude this series of posts, I believe that looking back helps us move forward. I am big on goal setting; I can’t help it. I just refuse to drift through life. Most people spend more time planning their summer vacation than they do planning their life out. I think that’s a tragedy.

With that said, what are the top moments of your last decade? What will the next decade look like for you?

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